they are currently disappointed in a change regarding our upcoming performance and they are hanging on to the frustration of the situation.
one defining characteristic of this age group is their intense sense of justice. in the realm of moral development, they get very passionate about what is and is not fair. in fact, they get so invested in this that they often have trouble seeing beyond the moment.
so we discussed getting stuck on anger, frustration, and disappointment when life presents unexpected changes.
i shared my personal philosophy with them...
i offered the idea that change is always going to be present in our lives and that how we handle it is a choice.
through our talk, they came to the conclusion that there are two main choices for our class at this point:
to stay stuck in the disappointment
and allow the show to go down in flames
to accept that our show has changed
and find a way to rock it in its new form
this idea is so important in my world.
my mother taught me to try to throw my arms around every situation in whatever way possible.
i have used this idea in big ways:
when confronted with the cancer and death of my father
when seeing my love cope daily with multiple sclerosis
when experiencing the deep heartbreak of a miscarriage
and i have used it in smaller ways:
when losing a job
when frustrated with teaching
when stuck as an artist
my approach to life's challenging experiences is to consciously accept what is happening so that i can work with it, move through it, and find the new path that is waiting to evolve in front of me.
i have found that when i stay rooted in the middle school mind of "it's not fair!" or "this isn't what i expected!" i cannot move through the troubling times with grace.
so, i choose to meditate, write, connect with others, and create art as a way to throw my arms around it all and embrace what is.